What to do if Men are Intimidated by You
So, Men are Intimidated by You?
We hear this a lot by some women today, that they meet guys, but don’t seem to be able to find the good ones. They can’t find the good ones that are willing to go out with them, or if they do, they don’t want to go on a second date. They feel that they intimidate men in general.
Well, let’s explore if men are intimidated by you.
It could very well be true that some women intimidate the men that they meet. It totally depends upon you as woman or the man himself on whether they are truly intimidated.
Maybe you are more successful, more outgoing and extraverted, or just more assertive or aggressive than the men you interact with or go out with.
Mathew Hussey, renowned dating and relationship expert and coach for women, addressed this in his own way recently. He acknowledged that it may very well be true, you do intimidate men. He says Men in the macro (men in general) could be intimidated and that this very well may be the case. So, men as a gender might be an issue today.
Maybe You are Truly Impressive!
Maybe you have very attractive physical features, i.e., maybe you are taller, or have a figure or body that is very tight or in-shape, or a body with physical parts that are voluptuous or exaggerated or really impressive to a man with those proclivities or fetishes even, maybe just a very pretty and symmetrical face, beautiful eyes, lips, whatever.
Maybe you are a leader and professional with impressive accomplishments, have lots of money, etc.
So, Matthew say, it very well could be true that you have some level of power due to your accomplishments, your position or success, or your looks and attitude. You also have to take a look at your approach. You can possibly use the leverage that you have to reverse the interactions.
You should look at the interaction as a way to find positive points and qualities in the men you meet. Maybe they will impress you. Maybe they have accomplishments of their own. Maybe they are making a positive impact in the lives of others. There is probably something, if you take the tact that others have something to offer and you can be impressed by them as well. Men place beauty above a lot of other features or characteristics, he could be captivated by you.
He says, you have to learn how to impress someone without bragging (about yourself, your accomplishment, etc.). He referenced that nobody wants to hang around a rich person who always brags about how much money they have.
It could be your approach and you can find one that really works for you, by not making the interaction you-centered. This could be the key to success if you are seeking a more modern and less hard lined traditional man. This type is probably more used to sharing the power in interactions with women or power and leading in relationships. Maybe he is used to having a strong woman in his life. Maybe you are also overlooking this type of man, among the men you are meeting.
More Traditionally
The more traditional thoughts are more hard lined. Prominent You Tuber, the late Kevin Samuels, a self-identified Image Consultant, would take a more adversarial tone and approach to the subject. He would say that you don’t actually intimidate men, but you maybe you are more masculine in your actions. It could also be who or the type of men that you attract.
He would probably say, and has said, that you don’t attract men that are impressive themselves if they are more traditional, because these men want a more feminine woman, one who acts more feminine and operates in their feminine. Therefore, you aren’t attracting men that you might have interest in, who wouldn’t be intimidated by you. These men simply aren’t attracted to you because of your communication style, your attitude, or just your approach.
He says men that you might want, are impressive themselves, and don’t want to compete with you or maybe just compete with you for the spotlight.
He would say, It could be that you are the common denominator and you are the issue. He would rudely say to some woman that they should put their penis away. They are too masculine. They need to learn how to follow instead of lead.
He says that men that are impressive and successful in general, don’t care what you do for a living and/or don’t need your money. Therefore, don’t see what you might believe as impressive (your profession, money or accomplishments) to be impressive to them. They are more interested in beauty and youth or youthful attitudes.
For some, this traditional view is offensive. But, Kevin points out that even the most modern of women still want their men to be traditional in a lot of cases. They want him to pay for the dates, pick them up, some want the men to exclusively plan them, even open doors, or protect them if the need arises, etc.
This is somewhat an opposing viewpoint, but offers some insight into traditional men.
In Conclusion
You have to take an honest view of your situation and be in the driver’s seat to address your real or supposed intimidation of men. You are in the position to address the landscape in a way that suits your desires if you are honest with yourself and make the minor tweaks or major tweaks if required to change your situation.
It’s a matter of show don’t tell. As they say don’t say that you are funny, be funny. So don’t say you are impressive, be impressive in a less intimidating way. Hope this helps give you some insight on what to do if men are intimidated by you. Food for thought.
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