5 Strategies for Getting Out of the Friend Zone with a Woman You Like
The “friend zone” is a term that is often used to describe a situation where one person in a friendship wants to take things to a romantic level, but the other person does not feel the same way. This of course assumes you are friends already.
If you find yourself in the friend zone with a woman you like, it can be a frustrating and difficult situation to navigate. Sometimes becoming friends is appropriate first, and there may be several reasons you find yourself in this situation.
If you have a desire to change this situation, be aware that the woman you know may not be ready for this change in the relationship. It may be best to have a discussion on how you are viewed by her. Hopefully you have some insights on her wants, needs and whether she is open to a more romantic relationship.
Be Honest with Her Desires and Your Own
Does she even want this type of relationship at this time in her life? What type of man does she normally date? Is it appropriate based upon the answers to these, whether you honestly see yourself fulfilling what she needs. Does she fulfil your wants and desires? Are you just lonely and it is convenient to pursue the one that is in front of you?
Again, it is important to keep in mind that not all women will be receptive to moving out of the friend zone. If the woman you like is not interested in a romantic relationship, respect her feelings and try to not push her. Instead, focus on maintaining a positive friendship and look for other opportunities to find a romantic partner.
Timing is also crucial. If she is going through a tough time, it might not be the best time to make a move. You may find that it is best to wait for the right moment and when she is ready to talk about it, then you can express your feelings.
Make her feel comfortable, safe, and understood. You can do this by sharing your thoughts and experiences with her. This can help her to feel more connected to you and open to the idea of a romantic relationship.
Please ensure that you know whether or not you should change or potentially sabotage a true friendship if that is what it is for you. Remember why you became friends in the first place.
5 Strategies for Getting out of the Friend Zone
If you decide that this is what you really want to do, and you are sure that you want to get out of the friend zone, there are some key strategies you can use to try to move out of the friend zone and into a romantic relationship.
- Straight forward approach: As referenced above, the real first step in getting out of the friend zone is to be honest with yourself about your feelings.
If you are truly interested in a romantic relationship with this woman, then it is important that you are upfront and honest with her about your feelings. It is also essential to be sensitive to her feelings and to not come on too strong. After all, you may not be able to predict how she might respond. Give some room for you both to breath as she prepares and then to actually respond. Prepare yourself to be either surprised or disappointed. Just remember that she is your friend, and it should be okay not to change things as well.
- A second strategy that can help you move out of the friend zone is to change the dynamic of your interactions with the woman.
Instead of always being available to hang out or talk anytime, start making yourself less available. It is important to understand as a man that you should be focused on yourself and doing things that perpetuate you and your success forward anyway. Being less available can create a sense of mystery and intrigue around you (you may actually have something new and interesting going on anyway). This intrigue and mystery can make the woman more interested in pursuing a romantic relationship.
- Another strategy that can be helpful is to focus on building a deeper emotional connection with the woman. This can include sharing more personal information about yourself and actively listening to her when she talks. Women typically have more feelings on the subject than you do, probably for any subject, so be cognizant of her feelings.
It is important to note, that it isn’t necessarily important to share your feelings and emotions, unless you know it would come across as passion. Ensure that your relationship is different than that of her female friends and more of a man-woman connection, in lieu of seeming like a chit chat, shared feelings discussions between girlfriends. You want to set up this relationship to fulfil the role of boyfriend. By building a deeper emotional connection for her, you can create a stronger foundation for a romantic relationship.
- Additionally, focus on building a deeper physical connection with her. This can include things like holding hands, hugging, and even just sitting closer to her. By building a deeper physical connection, you can create a stronger foundation for a romantic relationship.
Physical touch is important in any relationship. Friends or acquaintances don’t share the level of physical contract that romantic relationships have. Test the waters a little and look for direct and unconscious actions she takes in response. Does it draw her closer? If not, you might get yourself into the danger zone here. Tread cautiously.
- Finally, one of the most key things you can do to move out of the friend zone is to be confident in yourself. If you believe in yourself and your ability to be a great partner, it will be much easier for the woman you like to see you in that light as well.
In Conclusion
Remember, it is not always possible to move out of the friend zone, and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s best to focus on maintaining a positive friendship and look for other opportunities to find a romantic partner. She might be a good predictor of who you should date if it is indeed not her, she is a friend and knows you anyway.
In the end, getting out of the friend zone is typically not a one-time event. It can be a process that takes time and effort, that is unless she suddenly reacts. It could take a little more work on your part to ensure she sees you differently than she has in the past.
Keep working on building a deeper connection with her, being honest and open with your feelings about her is the best way, and being confident in yourself is crucial. Making yourself more successful and therefore more appealing never hurts. With the right approach, you can increase your chances of moving out of the friend zone and into a romantic relationship if both are receptive.
Good luck out there!
